In kitchens, behind bar counters, at markets, and in dining rooms, women continue to shape the hospitality industry–sometimes with quiet care, and at other times, with boldness and tenacity. This unexpected contradiction of softness and strength is, in fact, the distinct gift women bring to the field. Despite facing unique challenges and often unfair expectations, women in hospitality continue to lift each other up and build communities of support. We posed five questions to women in the industry across the state, asking about inspiration, challenges, mentorship, and advice for others. Here’s what they had to share.

How would you define “hospitality”?

“Hospitality is all about caring for others, and that looks different for everyone—that’s the beauty of this industry. It can be cooking a meaningful dish, sharing freshly baked cookies, inviting someone for afternoon tea, or offering a spot at the table unexpectedly. Whether a small gesture or a grand one, the meaning is universal: making others feel seen, valued, and cared for.” -Sara Cole, Owner, Abadir’s

“Hospitality, to me, is about helping people feel truly seen and heard. In my kitchen, I focus on creating a collaborative

environment where the team works with me, not for me, fostering respect, connection, and a shared sense of purpose.” -Kristen Hall, Owner and Executive Chef, La Fête

“To me, hospitality is anticipation, awareness, and accommodation. It’s about noticing and meeting someone’s needs before they ask, staying fully present and observant, and creating space where everyone feels welcome, seen, and cared for. Hospitality extends from guests to vendors to our team—it’s the art of making people feel valued and at ease through attention, empathy, and thoughtful action.” -Rita Bernhardt, Executive Chef, Luca Lagotto

What are some challenges you’ve faced as a woman in the food and beverage industry?

“One of the unique challenges women face in this industry is remembering that it’s okay to have curiosity. There’s often pressure to conform or prove yourself, but allowing yourself to ask questions and explore ideas is essential to growth. It’s equally important to create a space where people feel seen and heard–to value different perspectives.” -Kristen Hall

“It’s no surprise the industry is male-dominated, but I’ve been fortunate to work with many men who respect the perspective women bring to the team. Balance is key, though much of the misunderstanding comes from guests, shaped by media portraying a male-led industry. Time management is the hardest part, especially as a mom—finding space to connect with the team, engage with guests, and still have time for my daughter, family, and myself is a constant challenge.” -Rita Bernhardt 

“The biggest challenge I’m facing right now is navigating this industry as a mom. I’ve heard so much negativity about returning to work after having a baby, but I love what I do and don’t have the privilege of stepping back. My partner and I are doing this alone. I dreamed of being in the kitchen with my child—baby-wearing while cooking, teaching him as he grows. It’s challenging, but I wouldn’t trade being near him for a 9-to-5.” -Sara Cole

How have you witnessed women supporting women?

“I’ve witnessed women supporting women in countless ways. In September 2024, a friend encouraged me to return to food

writing on my blog, even when I doubted I had the time. Following her advice led to a writing award and a daily breast cancer series in October. Another friend pushed me to enter a book contest, giving me the nudge I needed to overcome doubt. Through these connections, I’ve also met fellow writers who provide feedback and encouragement. Birmingham is full of women cheering each other on, and their support has made all the difference.” -Chanda Temple, Food Blogger and Cookbook Author, Chanda Temple Writes

“When we as women support others and lead well, it’s not just about the tasks or the schedules—it’s about the people around us. I’ve seen how thoughtful leadership can shift mentalities, and how people see their own potential. If we pay attention to how we guide and support others, we have the power to change mentalities, little by little, every day.” -Nancey Legg, Founder, Better Kombucha

“I’ve witnessed women supporting women through encouragement, advice, and celebration of each other’s wins. When women take the time to make others feel seen, valued, and uplifted, it creates a ripple effect of positivity and confidence. That kind of support is contagious, and I’ve been lucky to experience it firsthand throughout my career—it’s truly where the magic happens.” -Rita Bernhardt

Who is a woman who has inspired you on your journey?

“Since starting Abadir’s, I’ve connected with so many inspiring and supportive women, and that has been one of the greatest gifts of this journey. The friendships, encouragement, and love I’ve received are incredibly empowering. I’m inspired every day by women pursuing their passions, especially those balancing careers and motherhood. But my greatest inspiration will always be my Tayta (grandmother), Ruth Hanna Abadir. Though she passed when I was very young, I feel her presence every time I cook. The dishes I create and ideas I explore in the kitchen are deeply influenced by her, both consciously and subconsciously.” -Sara Cole

“I think back to the first woman who truly believed in me and taught me to believe in myself, my high school English teacher, Christy Ader. She demonstrated that you can be incredibly strong and fiercely resilient, yet lead with profound kindness and

empathy. She was a masterclass in balance, excelling as both a dedicated mother and an exceptional teacher without ever compromising her humanity or professional edge. Christy taught me that balancing empathy with high standards is the highest form of leadership. Looking back as a mother now myself, I value her even more.” -Kendall Salgado, Bar Manager, Salud and Current Charcoal Grill

“My mom has always been my biggest inspiration. She’s worked in healthcare her whole life and raised me as a single mom, showing me what it means to be both strong and soft. She taught me that real strength comes from compassion, and that’s something I try to carry with me every day.” –Suzanne Gibson, Bar Manager, High Dive

What advice do you have for women entering the industry?

“Stand your ground and know your worth. This industry can be fast-paced and demanding, but that’s exactly why it’s so important to set clear boundaries and communicate well. When you do, you not only protect your own peace—you earn respect and create space for others to do the same.” -Monica Palma, Bar Manager, The Collins Bar

“I think it is important to treat and speak to everyone with respect and lead with empathy. As a leader, I am only as strong as my team. This industry is built from people from a wide spectrum of backgrounds and experience. Everyone handles stress, disappointment, anger, and anxiety differently. You never know what kind of day someone is having and or how they will react to conflict which is inevitable. I feel that if you remain calm, collected, and kind, you can de-escalate virtually any conflict and create a safe space for your team to communicate and thrive.” -Kendall Salgado

“My biggest advice for women entering the food and beverage industry is to get out and get involved. You can’t make connections from your desk or your car—seek out food events online and just go, even if you have to go alone. You’ll be surrounded by people who share your passion, making it easy to connect. Explore food festivals and the organizers behind them, and ask how you can get involved. There’s nothing wrong with asking questions. They could lead to your next big thing.” -Chanda Temple